The Fear Of Rejection

Let me tell you a little secret: Everybody has some fear of rejection! You may not realize this because it may not always look like it, but even people with high self confidence sometimes feel the fear of rejection.

The biggest difference between really confident people and insecure people when it comes to fear of rejection is how they choose to deal with it. People with self confidence will feel the fear of rejection but recognize that it's not a big deal and keep going. An insecure person will experience fear of rejection as much more important and is more likely to shy away from the situation.

Here's the deal; there is no way you can protect yourself from rejection. You will be rejected from time to time; it's simply a part of life. The important thing is how you think about it. If you have a strong and healthy sense of self esteem, rejection will not bother you as much. Even if it stings a little, you'll be able to realize that not everybody you meet in life will like you. More importantly, you'll understand that this is the way it's supposed to be, and that it doesn't mean there's something wrong with you, or the people who don't take to you.

There will also be times where you realize that it's not even about not liking you. You may not have the skills they needed for that position, or the man might not be emotionally ready to make contact with a new guy.





You see my point. As with so many other situations, it is rarely personal when someone rejects you, it is usually about their situation and what they need at that moment.

Think about how you react for a moment. Do you like everybody you meet? Have you ever turned someone down, not because they weren't good enough or handsome enough, but simply because they weren't who you were looking for?

As I said earlier, rejection is simply a part of life sometimes, and you can not protect yourself from ever experiencing some of it. What you can do is build your confidence so it can't affect you the way it is now. If you feel good about yourself, you don't experience as much fear of rejection because you don't take rejection as there being something wrong with you.

Feeling better about yourself will also keep you from seeing rejection where there is none. A lot of people with low self confidence get so hung up on their fear of rejection that they expect it to happen. They end up seeing what they are looking for because they don't know how to interpret the signals other people are sending out. Someone who is insecure will usually read neutral as bad, while someone who is confident will read it as good.

You may not be able to completely eliminate the potential of rejection from your life, but you can build up your own self confidence to the point where if someone rejects you, you quite frankly don't really care.

Reduce Stress In 

Four Easy Natural Ways

There are so many sources of stress in everyone's lives now. The constant flow of information along with the increased level of communication adds to stress levels. We are constantly reminded by the media that we live in uncertain times with lots to fear. Stress has become commonplace for people of all ages, children included.

Stress is one of the main contributing factors in the development of disease and ill health. The changes in chemistry that result from stress affect most bodily systems adversely. Consistent exposure to the biochemistry of stress compromises our immune systems. Over 75 % of visits to the doctor in America are due to a stress related condition, stress has the effect of aging people prematurely.

The good news is, there are simple daily techniques that can be used to reduce stress and bring balance to the system. The key is learning to trigger the opposite branch of the nervous system, to initiate the relaxation response. With regular practice these techniques can be used at any time to reduce stress and calm the system. We all have an amazing self-healing ability, which works most efficiently in the absence of stress.

Deeply relaxing the mind and body is a healthy habit to form, this can also be known as meditation. The recent research into relaxation/meditation shows that regular practice can cause positive changes to the brain and genes. The type of rest that we achieve using these practices is different to what we experience during sleep. There are various techniques that can be learned and practiced.



Breathing techniques are another excellent way of triggering the relaxation response. The practices of Yoga, Tai Chi, and Chi Gong have included breathing exercises for thousands of years. Many Western medical studies now confirm the numerous physiological benefits of focused breathing techniques. Breathing techniques are a way of directly influencing nervous system activity.

Acupuncture has proven itself to be an excellent approach at stress relief. Acupressure has shown to be even more effective than the use of needles for the relief of stress and anxiety according to some research. For the reduction of stress, self-applied forms of acupressure can easily be learnt and used. Acupressure can be applied as tapping techniques which are easy to master. The results are felt straight away from this quick and convenient technique.

A great deal of stress can be generated from fearing the future or dwelling on the past. The best antidote to this form of stress is to practice consistently bringing yourself back into the present moment. There are a number of ways to achieve this and it becomes easier and more natural with practice. An effective technique is to use your senses whilst spending time in nature. Whilst taking a walk in a park or in the countryside try to smell, touch, hear and actually look at what you are experiencing. Stress is likely to be a part of our lives and it's hard to avoid it completely. The secret is to make time in our busy schedules to practice calming and relaxing our systems. As with anything we practice, these techniques get better the more we use them. Triggering the relaxation response becomes easier and more natural. More health benefits from reducing stress are being discovered all the time, so it's a good idea to try harder at doing less.